Can people really change?

Yes, they absolutely can.

But why and how?

People will change if they want to.

There are countless stories about people who try to change themselves to be better than where they are now.

Do people change because of love?

Do people change because of pain and regret?

Or, do people change because of other people tell them to change?

There are many situations that can make people change in their lives.

There are many questions whether people really change or not, or they just lie.

Our friends believe us when we tell them we change but how about us, ourselves, do we believe that we really change or lie?

I give you a real example about myself.

Three things that can change me: environment, motivation, and love

1. Environment

Look around myself and I can see many of my friends have a good job, nice car, nice clothes, and living in a nice house.

How about me? At which level I am now?

I don’t mind if I don’t have nice car or nice clothes because I was born to be an ordinary person. But, I really want to have a nice house for myself and especially for my parents. I want my parents to live in a comfortable place, which no need to move from here to there. I also want to have a proper job so that I can support myself and can buy delicious foods for my parents, brother and sisters....

2. Motivation

Everything I want in the Environment subsection above is something that motivates me the most and leads me to change.

That's why my dream to study abroad was something that changed my life to be a better person with good education from being born in a poor family. But without strong motivation (my family) that hide behind that success I can’t be who I am today.

At this point, I can say that people need 2 types of motivations: (1) motivation which is created by yourself and (2) motivation which is created by others for you.

1. because everything is about my family, I need to motivate myself and change.

2. at the same time, I also need my parents and people around me to motivate me and encourage me while I am going.

3. Love

I change because I love my parents, brother, and sisters.

I change because I love to change.

I change because I don’t want to stay at the same place and at the same level.

And I don’t want someone to tell me what I need to change.

If I want to change, I will and I definitely will.

Will people change because of themselves or because of others?

Both. Please count me in.

People are stubborn. When someone tells them to change, they won’t change or they will slowly change if it’s necessarily important.

Honestly, I hate someone tell me to change this and that. But gradually I will rethink of that and try to improve it.

Can people change overnight?

Yes, when they met traumatic event in their lives.

This content is just one among many answers for the question “Can People Really Change?”

My answer is according to my experiences and my understanding in general and as an individual.

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